“Happiness is a soap bubble that changes colour as the iris and that breaks when touched”. ‒ Honoré de Balzac

Having a Zen attitude means finding mindful awareness of the present moment. This will help you release yourself from stress, anxiety, frustration and anger. Instead, focus on positive thoughts and actions that will help you relax and respond in a more balanced way to your everyday life.

Whenever I feel upset or if someone upsets me, I remind my self to stay and protect my zen inside my imaginary bubble. It is like I’m inside of a huge bubble protecting me from anything that may harm me mentally and emotionally. I started practising this when I became obsessed with being positive and don’t give a s..t to anything that may make me unhappy.

The bizarre thing is, most of the time I get upset with people whom I care a lot (maybe because I do give a S..T about them), and most of them try to pop my bubble and often they succeed doing it.

How Do I Protect myself Inside my Bubble:

• whenever I feel upset or resentful of someone, I check and ask myself, “is it worth it or just a waste of energy being upset?”, then I go back to my zen and don’t give a S..T.
• I try my very best not to be surrounded with negative people. I don’t like them to poison my mind and ruin my zen. I either tell them to stop complaining or I just walk away.
• I do the things I love to do and I do anything that makes me happy. Whether it’s cooking or baking, I go running or boxing, learning new things or reading a book. Remember, if you don’t love what you are doing and you can’t give your best, just leave it. We only have one life and its too short.
• I hang out with like-minded friends. I make friends with the people who are inspirational, lifts me up and push me to be more.
• I ignore and don’t pay attention to the negative situations and I don’t get involved. But if I’m involved already, I stay calm, deal with it and move on, that simple.
• Every now and again, I do need my alone time. Not to talk to anyone and just focus on my self. This may involve reading books or meditation. Yes, I practise meditation.
• STOP, BREATH, LET GO. Breath in, Breath out… I’ve learnt this from my yoga class. So, when I get upset, I pause, take deep breaths and let it go.
• Let go of the things that hold you back. We all had past mistakes that we are still holding on. This is so unhealthy and makes you a bitter person. I chose to be better if my past was not perfect and I made a lot of silly things, I let go of my past and see them as a lesson. I don’t let my past to define me it was only a part of me, good or bad, they are only memories.

Remember, it is only you who is responsible for your own feelings. It may get influenced by other people or the situation around us, but you are the only one who can control it. Having a zen is very helpful to have a happy and peaceful life.

Namaste!

Rainne xxx