I’m Not Where I Want To Be

I may not be where I want to be, but I’m grateful that I’m not where I used to be

Have you ever felt stuck where you are at the moment, still wishing to get where you want to be? I know it’s frustrating, Even though you work so hard and nothing change. Most of us are experiencing this or have experienced this in our lives.

I’m turning 40 next year and yet I still feel stuck and unsuccessful, I should be further along than where I am now. I know, I shouldn’t be questioning myself why I am still where I am. I have a decent well-paid job, but it is not my dream job. Up until now, I am still searching and asking my self, what is my purpose in life? What do I want to be? Where do I want to be?

It is so annoying when people judge us (even we judge ourselves too) when we get to a certain age, why we are not where we are supposed to be? When I was at my 20’s, I wanted to have my own family, get married and have children before I turn 30, even my whole family was expecting this to happen too. Isn’t funny that we think of these unrealistic ideas for ourselves, the people around us make up these rules for us and expects where we supposed to be.

We are always chasing what could be whilst ignoring what it is. The most important thing that we have is right NOW. Remember the quote “Yesterday was a history, tomorrow is a mystery”, it is so cheesy but it makes sense. We can not change the history nor can understand the future. The only thing that is important is the very moment, RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW.

1 YEAR= 365 DAYS

365 days= RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW

REMEMBER: Right now you are in control and right now you have the power to choose, that’s what matters.

But we have to take it slow because I believe everything worth having and maintaining happens gradually. Like with weight loss journey it won’t happen in an instant. It takes a lot of time and energy to achieve the body you want. Every time you work out, it counts, just keep going and never give up. Results may take a little while but its normal, keep pushing yourself to achieve your weight/body goal and it’s all worth it.

All I’m trying to say is, we can not take an elevated success, we have to take the stairs, slowly and in the right time. And then when you look back down that staircase you will see the difference, you are different and in a different world.

WHERE I AM NOW

GAP

WHERE I WANT TO BE

FRUSTRATING

DEPRESSING

EXPECTS AND WANTS MORE

GET STUCK

DISCONTENT

• There is a gap between WHERE I AM NOW and WHERE I WANT TO BE. In this gap, we get stuck and get discontent then we feel frustrated, depressed and then we expect so much and want more. And we end up feeling sorry for ourselves which is not helping us at all to grow.

Looking back from where I come from and where I am now, make me more grateful. I became a better version of who I used to be. I am continuously thankful for where I come from whilst being excited about where I am going. 

So now, the only way to accept what we feel about where we are at the moment is to be excited about where we want to be. Take those baby steps and climb the stairs slowly and enjoy the process. Working hard and patience are part of it, you may fall off the staircases whilst climbing but you still have the chance to get up, climb again and learn from it. Eventually, you will get to the top where you want to be.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog post, I hope I inspired you.

Lots of Love,

 

Rainne xxx